A close friend of mine just bought a 2014 4Runner. He got the Limited, which he said feels much better on-road than the SR5 (which is what I tested and found quite roly poly back in 2010). The Limited does have a different suspension system. Few vehicles have a stronger reliability record. Which trim level did you test drive?
The 2014 Jeep Grand Cherokee should be fairly reliable if and when they sort out the electronics for the new infotainment interface. With the 2011, most problems were sorted out in time for the 2012. Avoidable past problem areas include the optional air suspension (a problem area in MANY vehicles) and panoramic sunroof (rattles). Most different with the diesel.
The Outback is getting redesigned for 2015. Cliche or not, it's worth a look.
There's also the Forester, which drives well. It's just nothing special to look at, inside or out. The turbo model is very quick, but the non-turbo engine might suit the basic character of the vehicle better.
I realize that you more-or-less ruled out all save the Forester in your post, but there aren't many choices among travel- and off-road-friendly SUVs that won't cost a mint to buy and/or maintain.