We need a "search by feature" function on the site :)
You didn't mention seat memory, but most likely this is desirable. It sounds like you'd also like height and tilt adjustments on the passenger seat, which you won't often find on Japanese brands.
Some two-row crossovers with memory and tilt/height/lumbar adjustments on both sides:
Buick Encore (small but luxurious, very good mpg, manual recliners, front passenger seat folds for long items)
Cadillac SRX (2012 or newer, older ones aren't reliable, firm suspension)
Ford Edge / Lincoln MKX (about to be fully redesigned)
Lincoln MKC (new for 2015, more compact)
You didn't mention a price limit. Some European crossovers offer these features, but these tend to be expensive to buy and maintain:
BMW X3, X5
Mercedes GLK, ML
Volvo XC60 (a favorite of my wife)
Any impressions of these?