The Lexus NX 200t gets excellent reviews and it starts around $36k. It's a given that reliability and maintenance costs will be excellent.
The Acura RDX is also a very good choice. It's backed by Honda reliability and shares a V6 with many other Honda/Acura models, so it can be serviced reasonably. Definitely worth a look.
I have a lot of affection for the Volvo XC60. The XC60 is typical Volvo (safe, immensely comfortable) and it's a solid performer in winter weather. The best bet is a 1-2yr old CPO model.