You sound like you are describing a Jeep Renegade to me. For 10k under your budget, has the room you need, comes with 4wd, can tow a ton, there are used models available (of the 2015), and gas mileage is decent at 25 combined. Comsider the trailhawk model if you are interested at all in being able to go off road. It's no Wrangler, but you'll still have a lot of fun, and get 10mpg more than a Wrangler does. I have 20k miles on mine and would buy another in a heart beat.