Oil consumption is only bad if it ruins the engine. My dad's 2014 Panamera was rated as "most likely to burn oil" by Consumer Reports before that update. It doesn't burn any at 40k miles with the 3.6L V6. The early 2000s were the days of the bad Honda transmissions. Keep in mind that the Honda 9 speeds right now are rough and not reliable and the 6 and 10 speeds are smooth and reliable so far. Our 2002 Odyssey's timing belt was $515, not $1000. The benefit of having timing belts is that they are quieter than timing chains. I don't really try to look at Subarus' windshields, but I know it is only a problem with the 2015 and newer ones.
wvmidnightrider, the Outback, as everyone said, has high oil consumption rates. The Tundra will likely be more reliable even though it is 7 years older. But it is a truck and it doesn't sound like you need a truck. I have never owned a truck and hopefully never will because I enjoy driving small, nimble cars. Skip the Nissan Pathfinder. IMO, the ideal cars a family should have are a smaller sedan/hatchback/wagon and a larger family car like a minivan or midsized or large SUV. If you need the size of a midsized SUV, the Highlander can't be beat for reliability.
Of course, I agree with everyone except Norm. Since you want a fun car, I suggest the 2013 Mazda CX-5. It handles well, looks good, and is pretty spacious. Nice for a family car. Check if you can handle the road noise as that is a big complaint with these. Mazda has a 7 year/100k mile powertrain warranty with their CPO cars and a 1 year/12k mile bumper to bumper warranty. They are very reliable, so you don't need to spend extra on a CPO model. With an Outback, I would probably go with the CPO model. The CX-5 is available with AWD.
If you don't like the CX-5, the Toyota RAV4 is even more reliable. It is one of the more comfortable small SUVs. 2013 and newer ones are much better than the older ones.
As Dnslater said, most people don't know that winter/snow tires are all you really need in the snow. AWD only helps get started off the line from a stop. Winter tires help corner better, stop the car, and start the car from a stop. These snow tires stop the car in half the distance than an AWD car with all-season tires can.