I don't disagree with any of the above. All three are good choices. The best AWD system of the bunch is Subaru's. The best safety prevention system of the bunch is Toyota's safety suite, but Subaru's Eyesight works just as well - but in good weather only since it relies on cameras and not sonar like Toyota (and other brands).
Subaru's do last a long time - they brag in recent commericals 98% of ten year old Outbacks are still on the road in America. Note however, that about 10% of Outback's sold burn oil according to Consumer Reports. This you can live with if you check the oil. I own a 2013 Subaru Legacy with 70,000 miles that has burned oil since about 40,000 miles. You have to burn a 0.5 quarts every 1000 miles to get a new engine under warranty, and I don't do that - I burn about a quart every 2500 miles. So I check the oil every 1000 miles and if it needs some, I top it off. Car runs fine, no other issues, just a constant point of maintenance. It is like cars from the 1970s built with poor quality - a lot of them burned oil, and you had to maintain it. This is Subaru's (and Porche's since it has the same engine design) achilles heal, so to speak. If you are in the 90% that don't burn oil, you are in the majority. Just 10% of us have to deal with it.
About tires - they DO make a big difference. Please note if you have to climb a mountain, like I do, snow tires don't make enough of a difference. I climb a route that is 650 feet every day to get home. In my front wheel drive Saab it was okay in the snow, but the Subaru with AWD and the same snow tires had absolutely no problem. In the Subaru, I knew I could get home, in the Saab with FWD it is only luck if I made it home and did not have to walk. So if you have some small mountains where you drive, you will really prefer AWD. My new car, I got an AWD vehicle and look forward to driving it home next winter with no problem.
You will hear some favoring one or the other but of the ones you mentioned, it is a wash. Quality is nearly the same, AWD is something of a differentiation, and the safety prevention is a little more of a differentiation. Otherwise you won't really lose with any of these choices. Best of luck.