You've literally described every mid-size SUV on the market
I'd suggest 2010 or newer Subaru Outback - more relible than the previous version, can tow ~ 3000 lbs and can be found with (P)Leather
To get a Grand Cherokee for under $10,000 you're looking at the previous version i.e. pre 2010.
Same is true with the Explorer. you're looknig at the previous model. Instead consider the Ford Flex.