Sorry to hear about your accident and am glad you are OK. I would seriously consider a minivan as your next car. It does everything you want your next car to do better than an SUV can. The only downside to the minivan is that it does not go off-road and can only tow 3500 lbs, which is enough for most people. It is really smart to get a car with all the bells and whistles. Active safety features are known to save people's lives. Sorry for the long write-up :).
My wife's 2002 Honda Odyssey hauls our teenagers and all of our stuff when we go on week-long road trips. Minimal problems over 175k miles aside from 2 recalls. Landscaping items should be easy to put in because in a minivan you can take out the 2nd row middle seat if it has one and slide in 18 ft items. I bought a 65" 4k TV from Best Buy yesterday and I don't think I could have slid it into a midsized 3 row SUV with the much higher load floor. It really is amazing how much you can stuff into the back of a minivan. We rented a 2015 Chevy Traverse a few years ago and instantly I knew I should have gone with the minivan. The Traverse would not hold our family of four's luggage and a Costco trip's worth of groceries. We've made the same trip to Maui 5 times, used 2 Grand Caravan minivans, 1 Nissan Quest minivan, 1 Traverse SUV, and 1 Infiniti SUV. Every time, the minivans were superior in hauling cargo and people in comfort while getting better MPG than an SUV. Plus, we don't have to make another trip to Costco with a minivan. Once we took 6 people's luggage and a Costco trip.
So for the recommendations, I suggest a new 2018 Toyota Sienna AWD. They mildly refreshed the Sienna for 2018 with standard active safety features that automatically stops the car when about to get into a collision. Tons of space for your family and stuff and is comfortable. If you decide to not get AWD, the Honda Odyssey is a better minivan overall because it is more modern and comfortable overall. Both are reliable. They are more spacious for your husband and the rest of your family than an SUV. The Sienna has two moonroofs, one for front seats, one for 2nd/3rd rows. The Odyssey has only one normal sunroof for the front.
For SUVs, danlisahall made good suggestions; the Toyota Highlander and Honda Pilot. They are not as practical as a minivan, but are still pretty good. Hondas and Toyotas will have the lowest depreciation of any brand and are the most reliable brands (Toyota more so). The Highlander will give you all the safety features standard. Pilot has a nicer and newer interior overall, but the Highlander's is more practical. The Pilot Touring and Elite trims have a jerky 9 speed transmission that may have problems later on (danlisahall meant to say 9 speed). This may be a deal-breaker.Toyota has a reliable 8 speed. The safety features work better in the Highlander than Pilot. Highlander and Pilot can be had with panoramic sunroofs. Overall, if you have to get an SUV, the Highlander is the best package.
You will not get the same reliability, practicality, feature value, or resale value in the Chevy, GMC, or Buick. GMC and Cadillac are the two least reliable brands on Consumer Reports, both made by GM along with Chevy and Buick, although Buick is mostly reliable. (The Acadia is on the "10 least reliable cars list"). The Acadia Limited is more reliable, but you are getting a car that has a design from 2007; a decade old design and reliability not up to Toyota's standards. It is mainly used for rental car companies now. There is no reason to buy an Acadia Limited when your budget is $45k.
Good luck and I hope you respond with what car you bought!